Letting Go: a Panacea for Stress

Let go. It sounds so simple, but in practice, this is more difficult than you thought. How often do we cling to certain things in life? Think of certain people, certain things, but also certain thoughts and certain emotions. Clinging to something is a dangerous way to keep yourself from working on goals and dreams. Whether it’s a grudge you hold towards a person, negative emotions and feelings you still experience from a love affair, or a negative experience that keeps repeating in your mind, it’s not helping.

It is very addictive to hold on to things. It can give you a kind of satisfying feeling, reassure you, and keep you in your comfort zone. There is a certain peace of mind in continuing to think about experiences and feelings that are familiar to you, even though they are rooted in negativity. Ultimately, clinging to these feelings and not being able to let go is a danger to yourself. It prevents you from fully enjoying life. It keeps you from your dreams and goals. And it holds back your true potential as a unique person. The consequences of constantly clinging to whatever causes stress, feelings of depression, and eventually exhaustion or burnout.

The dangers of not letting go

How do you feel when you continuously hold a certain person, thing, feeling or thought? Most likely you will feel feelings of fear, uncertainty and doubt. What if that person leaves me? What if I don’t have enough money anymore? How do I ever find someone who loves me? All thoughts of doubt and uncertainty. The consequences of not being able to let go are countless. People who remain stuck in the past have to deal with both physical and mental complaints. The negative emotions create a self-fulfilling prophecy in which you invoke a negative outcome about yourself. For example, if you think continuously; I can’t, then you won’t. As long as you cannot let go, you live in the past and never lead a free life. Not being able to let go leads to:

  • Stress
  • Low self-esteem
  • Less self-confidence
  • Physical complaints
  • Fears
  • Depressed feelings

You can use the past to justify choices in the now. This is one of the reasons we like to cling and not let go. The hardest part about letting go is when something ever happened in a personal relationship with someone you really trusted. For example in the relationship with a family member, a child or a partner. Suppose someone did something wrong to you years ago. Then you can use that event to no longer go on outings where that person is also present. That reminder ensures that you justify the choices you make. In this way, this memory, with all emotions and negative feelings, becomes part of you and your story as a person. This ensures that you work against yourself and experience less happiness and pleasure in life. It is important that you learn to let go of certain feelings,

What story do you live in

What is your life story? Do you use your story to make certain choices and justify them? Some tell themselves that, for example, they will never find someone who makes them happy. Or they tell themselves they will never have a successful relationship. And all because she grew up with parents who constantly argued and eventually got divorced. Because of the way you’ve grown up, you can’t let go of the idea that all relationships are doomed to fail. This ultimately prevents you from maintaining a stable and healthy relationship. You are now using this memory to justify your story. And in this way, you color your own life negatively. Letting go doesn’t mean you have to forget all memories. Nor does it mean that you should deny the things that have happened. But what is important is that your memories do not affect your current life path.

Letting go of relationships is one of the hardest things you will do in your life. But your future cannot be forever determined by past actions and memories. Instead, your past can help you grow as a person. This allows you, for example, to ensure that you can build a healthy and stable relationship with someone in the future. Everything you’ve been through can help you grow. In that respect, everything you experience is an opportunity to learn something from it.

Not letting go only affects yourself. It does not affect who you feel the guilt and negative feelings for. The energy that you expend by holding onto this keeps you from living a free life. The power of letting go revolves around the meaning you give to the events in your life. The great thing is that you always give the meanings yourself and no one else. So you have the power to color memories and experiences and to choose how this will affect your life.

The steps of letting go

Step 1: Acknowledge. It is important to acknowledge any feelings you are experiencing at the moment. For example, admitting that you have negative feelings about a person or an experience is the first step to letting go. If you’re wondering what’s the best way to move on with your life, rest assured, you’ve already started. If you ask yourself such questions, it means you have already taken the first step. In the process of letting go, you will also learn how to overcome your energy and emotions so that you become happier and experience more positivity in your life. If you have decided to really let go of something or someone, you will find that it becomes easier to let go of other certain memories. This process is slowly getting easier.

Step 2: Moving on with your life. If you want to let go of someone completely, it can help to understand both sides of the story. Try to put yourself completely in the shoes of the other. What did the story look like from his / her perspective? If you can understand both sides you will be able to let go of everything more easily. As long as you only keep looking from your own perspective, feelings such as anger, misunderstanding and sadness will take over. You may also have certain expectations that have to happen before you can feel better. You have to let go of this idea completely. You cannot influence anyone else, you can only change yourself. Really focus on the closing of the previous chapter. Be grateful for the good and positive memories and emotions you once had with this person. This ensures that your anger and negative feelings are reduced. This simultaneously makes room for positive feelings and appreciation for what you have learned from it.

Step 3: Forgive yourself. You can forgive yourself for all that you have done wrong and for any pain you have caused yourself by clinging to memories and experiences from the past. You may accept everything that has happened in your life up to now, see this as facts and lessons. Letting go is a beautiful process in which you only make yourself better as a person. Negative events are part of this life, but you don’t have to cling to them anymore. live in the now and receive the idea of ‚Äč‚Äčuncertainty with open arms. You don’t know what’s going to happen in the future and that’s okay. Uncertainty can be a beautiful thing if you view it from a positive perspective. You do not know what beautiful things life will bring. Come face to face with what happened.

Less stress

By letting go of what you no longer have an influence on you will experience more peace and tranquility in your life. You may let go of all negative feelings and emotions so that you do not suffer from negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Letting go means less stress in your life. You cannot influence everything and you cannot control everything. Learning to let go is a must in this life. Live your best life in a healthy, relaxed and positive way.

Felix Tammi

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